A Visitor’s Guide: How to Behave in Germany
Planning a trip to Germany? Whether you’re heading to the bustling streets of Berlin, the charming villages of Bavaria, or for a business trip in Frankfurt, a little knowledge of local customs can make your experience so much better. While you’ll find a huge range of personalities, a few key cultural traits are worth keeping in mind. Here’s a quick guide to German etiquette that will help you feel right at home.
The P-Word: Punctuality is a Virtue
You’ve probably heard it before, and it’s absolutely true: Germans value punctuality. Being on time isn’t just a suggestion; it’s a sign of respect. For social gatherings, a little flexibility is okay, but for business meetings or appointments, aim to be on time or even a few minutes early. If you’re running late for any reason, a quick phone call or text to let the other person know is essential. This respect for time and order is a deep-seated cultural value.
Communication: Directness is a Form of Politeness
Unlike in some cultures where “beating around the bush” is common, Germans tend to be direct and straightforward. This might seem blunt or even rude to an outsider, but it’s a sign of honesty and a desire for clear, efficient communication. Don’t take it personally if someone gets straight to the point or offers constructive criticism. They are simply prioritizing clarity over small talk.
The Rules of the Road (and the Sidewalk)
Germany is a country that thrives on rules and regulations, and most people are happy to follow them. This is especially true for things like traffic. You might be tempted to jaywalk if the street is empty, but resist the urge. Germans will often wait patiently for the green pedestrian light, and they will silently judge you for breaking the rules. This same respect for order applies to recycling, which is taken very seriously.
Social Etiquette: Handshakes, Titles, and Privacy
- Handshakes: When you meet someone for the first time, a firm handshake is the standard greeting. It’s also common to shake hands with everyone in a group when you arrive and when you leave.
- Formal vs. Informal: The German language has two forms of “you”—the formal “Sie” and the informal “du.” It’s best to start with the formal “Sie” and use titles like “Herr” (Mr.) or “Frau” (Mrs.) until the other person suggests you switch to “du.”
- Privacy: Germans tend to keep their personal and professional lives separate. It’s best to avoid asking overly personal questions and to give people their space. If a door is closed, whether at an office or a home, always knock before entering.
A Few More Things to Keep in Mind
- Sunday is for rest: In Germany, most shops, supermarkets, and businesses are closed on Sundays. It’s a day for rest, family, and hobbies. Plan your shopping accordingly!
- Toasting: When you raise a glass with others, make sure you make eye contact with each person as you clink glasses and say “Prost!” (for beer) or “Zum Wohl!” (for wine). Legend has it that failing to make eye contact can bring bad luck.
- Quiet Hours (Ruhezeit): Germany has official quiet hours, typically from 10 PM to 6 AM, and all day on Sundays. This means no loud music, no vacuuming, and no using noisy power tools. Be respectful of your neighbors and keep the noise down.
- Nudity: In certain contexts, such as saunas, nudity is a non-sexual cultural norm. Don’t be surprised, and more importantly, don’t stare. It’s a normal part of the wellness culture.
By keeping these points in mind, you’ll not only have a smoother trip but also show respect for a fascinating and well-structured culture. Enjoy your time in Germany!
